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Welcome to HEY and YEAH
Last Updated:7/7/23 at 12:53 pm
Onboarding checklist
This checklist was created to make your life a little easier as you join our team.
Tools
Dropbox - We use Dropbox for storing study documents. Jess will provide you access to folders based on what you're working on.
After you sign up, email Jess what email you are using to be added to particular folders.
Fill out CSHRB paperwork
Two agreement forms will need to be filled out at the start of each quarter and attached to the ClickUp board
YEAH/HEY: Private
Complete required trainings
Two trainings will need to be completed before you start to get assigned study tasks. This will take ~5-10 hours. Make sure you attach your completion certificates to the ClickUp board using the view task link below.
Review the study grant
To better understand the study, please review the grant. This grant is a career development grant ("K99/R00") that allows Jess to get additional training for her research career. Note that grant writing is very dry and technical (sorry 🤷🏼♀️).
Please focus on the following pages:
Training plan - pages 66-70
Specific aims - page 71
Research strategy - pages 72-78
YEAH: Private
Create training goals
We take a personalized approach to training. Please create 2-3 goals you'd like to accomplish as part of your research experience. Examples can include, but are not limited to: learning about grant writing, understanding the research process from start to finish, learning about different types of research (qualitative, quantitative, intervention), or preparing to apply to graduate school.
You can either upload a document or add your training goals to the comments section in ClickUp.
Review sexual victimization info guide
Sexual victimization is a sensitive topic. This guide will provide a quick overview of how it is defined, how prevalent it is, and how we want to talk about it in YEAH.
Review the brand guide
We think of YEAH as a product that our participants will use. It's important to keep the consistency of the brand. Get acquainted with the look and feel of YEAH.
Watch user centered design video
In this study, we draw on user centered design principles to develop an intervention for the young women who will be using it. This is usually called UX design, which stands for user experience. Please review this short video to get a better sense of our inspiration and methods during the early stages of this study.
What Is UX Design? - An Introduction (Full Guide For 2023)
Visit the YEAH study website
Please upload a short bio and a high res photo (jpg or png) to ClickUp for the study website. For example bios, visit our website at https://theyeahstudy.com/about-us/. When describing your research interests, try to have a positive spin (e.g., instead of sexual risk behaviors, say studying sexual behavior and health).
Attend team meetings
During the school year, we come together as a team every 2 weeks for 50 minutes to go over announcements, task progress, and talk about research and professional development. Meeting times change quarter to quarter. Check with Jess to see when the next meeting will be. If you can't make the team meetings, Jess will set up individual meetings (20 min) with you.
You've reached the end of onboarding
We look forward to working together. Now that you're done with onboarding, we encourage you to check the Teams chat 2-3 times a week. Incoming messages may not require anything from you (e.g., reminder about readings for an upcoming meeting), but please at least send a reaction (thumbs up, heart, smile) so that people know you read it.
If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to email Jess.
Hello!
In YEAH, we see skills as an essential part of getting what we want and need. The more we practice in non-sexual situations, the easier it is to use in sexual ones.
Below is an overview of the skills covered in YEAH. You'll see that emotions are central. That's because understanding and managing emotions helps us be effective, especially for communicating with others.
noticing emotions
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EMOTIONAL AWARENESS
Helps us notice and name emotions so we can understand what we’re feeling.
How to practice
1) Notice physical sensations
2) Label the emotion(s)
3) Rate the emotion’s intensity (1-10)
4) Name any action urges -
MINDFUL "OBSERVE"
Helps us notice the present moment through any of the five senses.
How to practice
→ Watch clouds move across the sky
→ Listen to the birds outside
→ Watch emotions come and go
→ Feel the sensations of emotions -
MINDFUL "DESCRIBE"
Helps us take the observations of our five senses and put it into words.
How to practice
→ Describe what you see around you
→ Describe what emotions feel like
→ Describe what you’re thinking
→ Describe how being touched feels
managing emotions
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TIP THE TEMPERATURE
Helps us quickly reduce the intensity of negative emotions so other skills can be more effective.
How to practice
Get a large bowl, fill it with ice cold water, and dunk your face for as long as you can. Icepacks, frozen food bags, and cold showers also work.
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GROUNDING
Helps pull us out of distracting internal experiences (thoughts, emotions, body sensations) and into the present.
How to practice
→ Give yourself a tight hug
→ Look for objects that are red
→ Step outside and feel the cold air → Use tip the temperature -
STOP
Helps us quickly pause in situations to check in with ourselves about what we want or need.
How to practice
S = Stop! T = Take a pause O = Observe your limits P = Proceed mindfully
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DEEP BREATHING
Helps us slow down our breathing when feeling stress or negative emotions.
How to practice
Get in a comfortable position and start to take in slow, deep breaths. Count each breath as you inhale and exhale. Continue until you feel relaxed.
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BODY RELAXATION
Helps us let go of stress by tensing and relaxing our muscles.
How to practice
Start by taking in slow, deep breaths. Tighten muscles for 10 seconds and notice the tension. Relax muscles for 20 seconds and notice the difference. Continue until you feel more relaxed.
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COPE AHEAD
Helps us prepare for situations by visualizing it as if it was happening now.
How to practice
1) Describe your goal for the situation
2) Identify the emotions will come up
3) Identify what skills are needed
4) Visualize yourself doing your best
accepting emotions
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mindful "participate"
Helps us throw ourselves completely into the present moment by giving it our undivided attention.
How to practice
→ Sing along to a playlist
→ Start a new art project
→ Focus on sexual sensations
→ Let emotions come and go -
self-validation
Helps us take a kind approach to thoughts, emotions, or experiences based on how we talk to ourselves.
How to practice
→ “It’s okay to feel this way.”
→ “I’m allowed to be upset.”
→ “These feelings won’t last forever.”
→ “I’m strong - I’ll get through this.” -
SELF-SOOTHING
Helps us comfort ourselves when experiencing negative emotions by using our five senses.
How to practice
→ Watch videos of cute animals
→ Listen to calming music
→ Take a warm shower or bath
→ Light candles or burn incense
Communication skills
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ASSERTIVENESS
Helps us communicate what we want or need to others in a respectful way.
How to practice
1) Think ahead of what to talk about
2) Use I statements (“I think…”)
3) Be clear and specific
4) Ask clarifying questions as needed -
DEAR
Helps us think through what to say when communicating our needs.
How to practice
D = Describe the situation
E = Express your feelings
A = Assert your needs
R = Reinforce why this matters -
MAN
Helps us think through how to say it when communicating our needs.
How to practice
M = be Mindful of your goal
A = Act confident
N = Negotiate only soft boundaries -
DIRECT CONSENT
Helps us communicate what we want or need (including our limits) in sexual and non-sexual situations.
How to practice
→ “Can I have a hug?”
→ “It feels good when you ___.”
→ “I’m actually not into that.” -
INDIRECT CONSENT
Helps us communicate what we want or need using facial expressions or body language.
How to practice
→ Initiating contact or touch
→ Smiling and making eye contact
→ Moving bodies closer together -
OPPOSITE ACTION
Helps us advocate for ourselves, especially when our emotions are getting in the way of doing so.
How to practice
1) Label the emotion (embarrassed)
2) Notice the action urge (not speak up)
3) Do the opposite (say what you need)
safe drinking
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SETTING LIMITS
Before drinking, this helps us think through what limits we need to set to have a good time later on.
How to practice
→ Know how much is too much → Set a drink limit for yourself → Have a set time to go home
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HAVING A GAME PLAN
Before drinking, this helps us create a game plan for staying safe when we’re out with others.
How to practice
→ Plan to eat before drinking
→ Have a designated driver
→ Have what you need for safe sex -
INVOLVING FRIENDS
Before drinking, this helps us know how to draw on our friends so everyone stays safe when drinking.
How to practice
→ Let friends know your plans
→ Know how to keep tabs on friends
→ Plan to go home with friends -
ADJUST DRINKING
When drinking, this helps us be able to stay out longer by drinking in a way that we can handle.
How to practice
→ Stick to a drink limit for yourself → Have water in between drinks → Avoid mixing alcohol with drugs
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PACING YOURSELF
When drinking, this helps us pace ourselves so we can a good time while we’re out.
How to practice
→ Drink slowly rather than chugging → Don’t try to match other’s drinking → Keep track of how many you have
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WATCH YOUR DRINK
When drinking, this helps us try to monitor our drinks in order to reduce drink spiking.
How to practice
→ Watch your drinks being made
→ Keep track of your drink
→ Don’t accept opened drinks
Mindful sex
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USING "OBSERVE"
Helps us boost sexual desire and arousal by shifting attention from distractions to our five senses.
How to practice
→ Notice the sensation of touch
→ Notice the sound of moaning
→ Notice the smell of your partner
→ Notice the taste of sweaty bodies -
USING "DESCRIBE"
Helps us take observations and put it into words. This can be especially helpful when talking dirty.
How to practice
→ Describe what you want done
→ Describe where you want it done
→ Describe how it feels for you
→ Describe the look of body parts -
USING "PARTICIPATE"
Helps us maximize intimacy and sexual pleasure by giving the present moment our undivided attention.
How to practice
→ Focus on your sexual sensations
→ Focus on how it feels to be touched
→ Focus on connecting right now
→ Focus on how much you want this -
SOLO SEX
Helps us connect with our bodies and learn what kind of touch gives us the most sexual pleasure.
How to practice
→ Focus on pleasure over orgasm
→ Give yourself time to explore
→ Discover your erogenous zones
→ Bring out the sex toys -
TOUCHING THE CLITORIS
Helps us maximize sexual pleasure by figuring out ways that we like our clitoris to be touched and when.
How to practice
→ Orbit, tap, or rub it directly
→ Tease by touching around it
→ Vary the speed and pressure
→ Add lube to reduce friction -
PRACTICING EDGING
Helps us extend sexual pleasure by bringing ourselves to the brink of orgasm and then pausing.
How to practice
1) Stimulate your clitoris
2) Almost bring yourself to orgasm
3) Pause for as long as you need
4) Repeat as many times you want
